When it comes to approachable and relatable celebrities, my friend and pop star Colton Ford ranks among the greatest. I had the chance to speak to Mr. Ford about his new music (which I’m living for!) and where he’s at in his life today. We’ve known each other very well for over 10 years. He is one of the only people I still know from my days in L.A. Life changes and people move on but good true friendships are hard but wonderful to come by. I believe we have that relationship. Time and distance often separates us but it’s as if nothing has changed when we do connect via phone or face to gorgeous face. Man, he hurts my eyes.
Colton has been over to the house a few times for dinner and we always have a true KiKi when we hook up. To know him is to also know his heart is of gold and the spotlight that follows him doesn’t blind him into an oversized ego that comes with fame. He is genuine, real and deserves all the great things coming way and more! This interview with Colton Ford has been a while in the making. I’m so excited to finally share our time together with you, his loyal fans. Thanks to Aaron Cobbett for the fierce photography and Marco Ovando for the amazing video images, and of course Mr. Ford’s team for making this happen!
Steven Michael – Hello, my Love! FINALLY, right?! Let’s get right into the all the Tea that’s fit to print. The rest we can laugh about afterwards privately. Can you give us a background check on where you came from and what your childhood was like?
Colton Ford – “I was born in Pasadena, California, and grew up in a suburb of Orange County, California, called Mission Viejo. My parents divorced when I was around 2-years-old, and my mother remarried when I was around 4. My stepfather and I didn’t really mesh, but all in all I had a happy and enjoyable childhood.”
Did you know early on that you wanted to be a singer and how did that all start for you? Who were your early inspirations?
“Well to hear my mother tell it, I was a very happy kid, always singing, performing and entertaining everybody. I’ve just continued to do what I’ve always done. I listened to everything from Boston, The Doobie Brothers and Fleetwood Mac, to The Commodores and Shalimar, to Stevie Wonder, Luther Vandross and Chaka Khan. I also really loved Olivia Newton-John, and got into Manhattan Transfer, Sarah Vaughan and Ella Fitzgerald. I always seemed to gravitate towards R&B though.”
We need to play DJ next time you’re in because our tastes run along the same Classic Rock and Vintage R&B trail. I worship Olivia Newton-John! You’ve got new music coming out and a brand new album. Share the inspiration for the music and where does it all come from? Do you write your own music?
“Well it’s a very organic process for me. I don’t really go into a writing session thinking I’ve got to write this or that, or write a hit song, etc. Generally speaking, I get a track (or tracks) and let the track guide and inspire me. I start humming different melodies, which then start to evolve and lyrics starting coming through. Now I have gone into a writing session with an idea of what I want to say, but overall I let the process unfold in the moment. I write the topline (the melodies and lyrics).”
What part of the process do you enjoy most about recording music?
“I truly love the whole process really. From getting a new track, to writing the topline, to recording it and releasing it, not to mention creating a visual in the way of a video for the song. It’s all really an amazing evolution!”
I want to choreograph something for you sometime. It would be hot, trust. What part of the process do you like the least about recording music?
“Waiting to release it once you’ve recorded it!”
I bet! I don’t wait well when I am excited about something. What’s the biggest misconception about you?
“That I’m gay. (laughs) Couldn’t resist!”
Oh, I could say so much right now. (both laugh) Getting to the heart of the matter… Boxers, Briefs or Bare?
“Generally I wear g-strings. I don’t like panty lines, and I like the room you get for your junk.”
You make me smile. Now be a dear and send me one of those g-strings after a good workout. STOP IT! You’re being silly. What type of man turns you on and where/what would be the perfect date?
“My partner, Angelo, totally turns me on. I like a man that has a sense of himself and his masculinity without walking around as though he can’t put his arms down by his side. You know what I mean? That uber tough machismo bullshit! I’m also a huge sucker for a pretty face (cut to pic of Angelo). I also like brains and a good sense of humor. Now for the perfect date.”
“That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25th. Because it’s not too hot, not too cold, all you need is a light jacket. (laughing) Couldn’t resist quoting that great line from Miss Congeniality. Seriously, I know it sounds cheesy, but the perfect date for me is to stay home with my partner, smoke a little pot (yes, I said it) and have a bedroom picnic watching a great movie.”
Hunty! Sing it to the choir, advocate. Fierce. Have you always been beefy with brawn? Because my dear love, your body rocks the house. Have always had a secret crush on you. But please don’t tell yourself that. I’d die if you knew. I DIE.
(laughing) “You’re so sweet, but I’ll pretend like I don’t know. Rest assured, your secret’s safe with me. Better that way cuz I’d probably get a big head if I knew! I was leaner in my 20’s, doing more cardio and less weight-lifting, which I didn’t really need to do as much of as I had a fast metabolism. At that point in my life, though, I thought my ass was too big and wanted to get it smaller. Didn’t work, and my big butt actually turned out to be an asset in the long run. Good night. Here all week!!” (both laugh)
“I got bigger in my mid-30’s, with my most brawny period being in my early to mid 40’s. I’m 6’ and got up to around 218 pounds. I’ve sized down as I entered the latter part of my 40’s because it was time, plus the joints start telling you when you get a little older to not beat ‘em up as much. I’ve listened!!”
Do you find that people want to discard you from being a serious musician because of your film past or have you had open arms?
“I’ve experienced both. Some people just don’t want to recognize me as a musician, or anything else for that matter, because they think that since I did porn I don’t have anything else to offer, or that I’m not entitled to pursue anything else. I’ve had more people, though, that get me as an artist and support what it is that I’m doing. I also think that my body of work speaks for itself. I’ve been in the music business for 30 years, and have had some great success, and have worked with some pretty amazing artists that are significant players in the business. My music is not an afterthought of porn. Word!”
TESTIFY! How do you deal with the haters and are they out there waiting for you to fail? We all come across them but should realize their hate comes from a place of unhappiness with one’s self projected onto someone else.
“Anyone who puts themself out there has to accept the fact that haters come along with it. I don’t care who you are, or what you do, you will have people who will lash out at you for a whole host of reasons, most of which have nothing to do with you. I’m very “Four Agreements” about it. I think the haters say more about themselves in their rants, then about the people they’re yapping about.”
When do you find time to relax and chill? What does that time consist of and what are you into?
“I find it, and if it’s not readily available, I work to make the time. I realize more and more how essential it is to create a balance between work and a personal life, and how difficult it can be in today’s world to strike that balance. That down time can consist of a number of things, from cuddling in bed watching TV with my partner, to going out to dinner, to going to the movies. Whatever works in the moment.”
You’ve just relocated to Southern California. What’s the plan for 2013 here on the West Coast?
“Just to continue to do the work that I’m doing. It doesn’t really matter where home base is in this global society we live in. I can do what I do wherever I’m at. I have my studio, and most of my collaborations are facilitated remotely. I’ve been going back and forth from Cali to NYC since I moved, so I consider myself more bi-coastal now.”
I’m just glad we have you over here more on the west coast now! What’s your advice for up and coming artists who are trying to get noticed in the industry?
“There’s no template. Just be ready to work your ass off, and prepare yourself for the ups and downs that are a huge part of the creative experience. Also, you’ve got to want it for the right reasons, and recognize that you will always have to be the one who wants it the most, even when you’re surrounded by people who believe in you.”
Your comment about being the one that wants it the most rings true. It’s like me getting back into the pageant/contest circuit a bit. I’m the one making it happen, nobody else, even though I have amazing support. We have to want something strong enough for ourselves to make a change or first (second and third) step! Any stories of hardship/adversity throughout the years in the business that you can share to prevent other’s from barking up the wrong trees and making wrong choices?
“My story of multiple record deals and finding myself at the short end of the stick is not a unique story to those who have had the good fortune of getting a deal. Won’t bore you with the details. All I can say is that it’s a process that you have to feel your way through, and a process that takes time. The overnight sensations don’t happen very often at all. Just try and align yourself with people who understand you and your vision, and want and have the means with which to help you in your efforts to realize your dream.”
After your move off the Island of Manhattan, what can you reflect on as the best and worst parts of the city? I know you had turmoil during Hurricane Sandy trying to get out of your place and out of New York last year.
“New York is an amazing place that covers the full spectrum of opportunity, from good to bad and everything in-between. It has so served me and my career, and the creative spirit is beyond! The day-to-day of it as a resident can wear you out. It’s relentless, not to mention the expense of living there, which continues to get more and more costly. I will always have a relationship with NYC, and it will change through the years as relationships do.”
I HEART NEW YORK CITY! Many, many fabulous memories and some tales of woe, as well, come out of there for me. You and I have known each other for a good many years which I really worship. I’ve been down many roads and have kept a certain group of confidants in my circle. Glad you’re one of them, my Love. What do you miss about your carefree days of yesteryear? Do you miss the circuit party scene that consumed us all at one time? We’re not 25 anymore, sweetheart.
“What? When did that happen? (laughing) I definitely appreciate my past, and there are certain things that I remember with great fondness, some I even miss. I do really love the place I’m at in my life, even with all the struggles, and I’m grateful that I haven’t gotten stuck in anything from my past that could have kept me from getting to where I am now. I totally enjoyed the circuit scene for what it was when I was in it, but it doesn’t carry the same attraction to me now that it did then, thankfully. I’d rather have dinner with my partner, sometimes with friends, and have a nice conversation. Everything has its time.”
It sure does. Glad I did it when I did! What tour dates do you have planned? Where can your fans and followers find you and your music other than our house for dinner next time you’re in Palm Springs?
“Tour is currently being structured and people can find my music online (i.e., iTunes, Amazon, Juno, etc.), and at specialty shops for those releases where we have physical cd’s pressed up. Please follow me on Facebook and Twitter at coltonfordmusic. Updates with the latest and greatest will be there to find!!”
I know you’re a personal trainer and a very successful one. Any advice for people out there to lose a few pounds before swimsuit season begins?
“Just try and stay consistent with your workout regimen, and if 90% of what you eat can be as close to the way it came into existence as possible when you consume it, you’ll be doing yourself a lot of good!”
Any final thoughts, Master Ford? Are you about to dominate the gay dance music charts for weeks to come, or what?! I need one of your calendars, STAT.
“Just check out my new album, The Way I Am, including collaborations with Wawa, Ray Isaac, Jens Bergmark/RedTop, Chris Willis, Nervo, Ultra Nate, Chris Castagno, Count De Money, Razor N Guido, Julien Aletti, Raphael Aletti, Fagault & Marina, and Ron Schrader. The big album will be released by Peace Biscuit/ Woop Woop!”
I WORSHIP! My appreciation to my dear friend Colton Ford for sharing his honest thoughts and precious time with our readers and his fans. I’m so excited his smash Let Me Live Again (The Remixes) hit #2 on Billboard’s Breakout Club Play chart doing quite well! His 2013 calendar is also ready for your office or bedroom wall. That was entirely funded by Kickstarter as was his Marco Ovando-directed video for “Let Me Live Again” that pays homage to our hero Tom of Finland and the iconic imagery that came with his favorite videos of the 90’s. Read up on Colton’s blog at Guy Spy and dance down to his new music!
Colton Ford’s new album The Way I Am will be available on iTunes for pre-order on June 4, 2013 with the digital release dropping on June 18, 2013. SHWERQ!