Trans, Tranny, Transsexual – What is the Tea?

None of us can seriously tell someone else how they should or shouldn’t feel inside. We sure try to persuade others to like something or not, but in reality we rarely change their true perception. On a personal level, we can try to tell ourselves how we feel about this or that but we may truly feel something completely different deep down where truth is found. This is our Tea and that’s alright. For the most part…

With all this brouhaha happening over at RuPaul’s Drag Race, the use of the words “tranny” and “she-mail,” and the online feud between RuPaul and one of her former Dolls, Carmen Carrera, I thought I needed to speak up finally about the subject because it truly is fierce. And keep in mind, everyone comes from somewhere and RDR is how we know Carmen Carrera. It’s given her a platform and she is doing her best to use it for what she sees as good. Unfortunately, there has been some unprofessional hitting below the duck tape and that stings.

I admit I use the word tranny as a term of endearment because the bottom line is… I love trannies! I’ve lived with transsexuals before, choreographed them for pageants and I’ve known them personally as good friends even calling some part of my extended gay family. And why?! Because they are strong, fearless and resilient. Many of us take our lives for granted because we are often accepted by others while many transsexuals don’t have that luxury because they are simply trying to make it in a world where they can live and love freely as their true selves where they are often told they can’t. I enjoy their stories and company. When I call someone a tranny, it’s always a friend or sister even good brother or man. And it’s always a term of endearment. It’s never derogatory because that’s when it becomes slander. And I would never say that word as slander or with hateful intent. Some people do. It’s not my Tea. I don’t dig it.

I doubt RuPaul, Logo TV and all the producers at World of Wonder originally had in mind to offend our LGBT community when they coined the term “She-Mail” describing the mini-challenge each of the contestants must endure. It was a cute and kitschy way of introducing the segment. However, it’s now been erased from all episodes never to be used again. The PC Police get a win. And on a side note, it took six seasons for someone to speak up about this?!

Now the institution in San Francisco formally known as Trannyshack will be allegedly known as T-Shack. After all of this time?! Intuition tells me people will continue to call it Trannyshack and it will all blow over. It’s amazing how long it takes some things to catch on especially important ones and how quickly other things come to fruition and smack people across the face immediately.

RuPaul has come forward speaking strongly against those who have been so vocal making noise about being offended by the words or slang as it’s been referred to. And to think the one leading the parade is former contestant Carmen Carrera, now a trans woman becoming a trans advocate while perusing the world of modeling. I’m honestly so sick of seeing the entire mess unfold online and through social media I’ve un-followed the situation. Alas, here I am chiming in because many have too! And as always, I have something to say and a platform to do so.

We all know the battle against use of the “n-word” has raged on for decades. Who can never say it?! Us. Who definitely can?! Obviously many in the black community say it to each other. So guess what… I will not stop saying tranny to those I love. It’s never been something I’ve said in jest on Facebook or the like. Many do. It’s fine for them. No Tea. It’s not for me. Plus, many of the trans women I know personally don’t have a problem with the term. Tread lightly and carry a very big heel, I encourage.

And here’s drag for thought… If people are offended about the word tranny then the queers should be up in legs about RuPaul’s catchy new dance track “Sissy That Walk.” Hello?! Sissy is known to be a derogatory slang for effeminate males. Nonetheless, if the words bother you guess what, they are only words. How do you feel about yourself? Are you strong? Wonderful. Then realize that the one using the words with hate backing them up really only hates themselves in the heart of the matter and fears what they don’t understand. We must continue to educate not segregate. “Water off a duck’s back,” as Jinkx says!

Sure, I’ve been called faggot, queer, queen, diva, homo, gay boy, bitch and even worse. Did it bother me, occasionally. Only when it was directed in an slanderous way towards me. Are they wrong? No. I’m all of those things. And often very proud about it. And again, I’m quick-quick to use the word “bitch” because I love it. Another term of gay endearment when it comes from me and my team. “Being In Total Control of Herself,” Latrice belted out a few seasons ago! Amen, sistah!

However, let’s realize that many of us are not transsexuals living as another gender from what we were born as. The majority of us do not know what that’s like to live your life the way we feel inside and have society in many ways tell us we are wrong for doing so. Again, we can’t answer for someone else. We only answer for ourselves. If trans women and men are offended by the use of the word tranny, I admit I see where they are coming from. But I do hope that as a gay community we become more inclusive than separating into sub-divisions of tribes and cultures. “They” are the enemy. And when I say they, I mean the haters, mean-spirited and judgmental. They are the ones we should beware of not each other. And I saw a transsexual on Facebook mention today that “if you use the word tranny then please don’t abuse it.” Perfectly said.

Love each other. Love yourselves. And again, I LOVE TRANNIES! ❤️

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